I
have a strange tendency to hold on to things longer than I should—be they
t-shirts from sixth grade or old letters from forgotten friends or 10-day-old pizza
in the refrigerator. Even after something has become useless or moldy or passé
or devoid of any real meaning, it’s still not easy for me to get rid of it and
banish it from my life forever. This propensity to hold on too long explains
why, as recent as this past week, I was signing on regularly to AOL Instant
Messenger (aka AIM)—nearly 15 years after I first appeared on the scene as
“Carthage45” (a reference to the North African home of Hannibal—in case you had
any doubts that I was not a dork)—in spite of the fact that I didn’t know
anyone else who used it anymore. For the uninitiated, AIM was created as an
instant messaging service initially part of America Online (AOL), an internet
service provider that unbelievably still exists. AIM soon developed as a
stand-alone instant messaging system that allowed you to compile a ‘buddy list’
of screen names of people you knew who you could then chat with. From the time
it first became available, I was hooked. It has now been part of my life for so
long as a source of communication and connection and the airing of grievances, it
has become daunting to say farewell, in spite of the fact that AIM has
completely lost all the usefulness that initially drew me in.
What
AIM has meant to me over the years is hard to quantify. It was, in its earliest
stages, a way to solidify friendships, obtain breaking news updates from the
soap opera that was middle school, and gain a foothold in some external space
even when I lived in a world that was regimented by parents who were hung up on
making sure I did my homework and got to bed on time. Later, at boarding
school, it became a lifeline to the distant outside world—as it was the only
practical way I could keep in touch with friends back home or people who were
locked up in other dorms after lights out. In college, the device lost a lot of
its luster, but it still served as a means to keep in touch with friends from
high school, and a way to easily figure out where people were going out or what
the assignment in English class was. Since that time, it has basically been a
quiet, uncrowded room where people from the past would appear without warning,
out of thin air, to say “hello, how are you?” and then disappear into the murky
deep once again. One by one, the screen names I was so used to seeing pop up on
my buddy list each afternoon like clockwork vanished completely until only one
or two appeared with any regularity. In the last couple of months, even those few
remaining holdouts have completely abandoned it. Now, I feel like I’m the last
person in the room, left behind to turn out the lights before the party is
closed down for good.
With
the prevalence of so many means of digitally communicating with people—from Gchat
to Facebook to text messaging—the utility of AIM has declined drastically in
the last five to seven years. Some studies report that AIM held over 50 percent
of the instant messaging market as recent as 2006, a number which has now dropped
to less than 1 percent—a staggering decline even in the ever-changing world of
communications. People stopped using AIM simply because there were suddenly so
many other easier, hipper ways to tell someone you were too tired to watch a Star Wars marathon. Especially as mobile
phone technology has grown, the ability to stay in touch with friends at every
hour of the day has become a real possibility (and for some, a necessity). No
longer do you have to wait to get home to sign on and hope that someone else is
online—you can just text them or send a message on Facebook or tweet at them or
facetime them or whatever. As has been the case with much of our recent
technological advancement, communication tools are forever shifting and
adapting to find new methods to make our interactions with others more instant
and more controlling of our lives. Though AIM was for many people an obsession
that took up a substantial amount of time, there was still the ability to
eventually sign off and return to a haven without the ding of a new instant
message. That wall that provided some sense of privacy and distance has since
been shattered by ‘improved’ technology, thus destroying the need for an
Instant Messenger service that was dependent upon making yourself available at
the exact same time someone else did. Somehow, I miss that idea.
A
few months ago, I pulled out the old laptop that I had in high school. Out of
curiosity, I turned on the shockingly clunky apparatus just to see what was
contained inside. Amidst the folders for Napster and papers for 10th
grade history class, I noticed a program known as Dead AIM, which if I remember
correctly was somehow ‘better’ than your average AIM. Unbeknownst to me, that
program had logged every conversation I’d ever had while using it. And I, perpetually
bored and self-reflective, decided to read all of what was documented there,
trying to decipher cryptic messages like they had been transmitted by unknown
beings from outer space. Like my recent foray into examining old notebooks of
poetry, this experience was uncomfortable and unsettling—envisioning myself so
long ago, typing furiously into the night, trying to be funny, trying to sound
smart, trying to create real connections with people. It captured, in just the
couple of months that I used Dead AIM, so much about what high school was like.
Whether I was arguing politics or reveling in oblique away messages (which
would soon be replaced elsewhere by ‘status messages’), the chats were all
foreign and fascinating, like some kind of time capsule I had forgotten I’d
buried in the back yard.
Just
as my reticence to throw away old shoes has nothing to do with any deep-seated
love for the rubber in their soles, my inability to sign off from AIM forever
has nothing to do with its design or functionality. I’m not attached to the medium itself, but to
what happened there. That feeling of possibility, of being able to instantly
and directly communicate with dozens of people with the reckless abandon of
adolescence is what I feel I’m leaving behind. Because in many ways, I still
chat as I did then, just in a more mature and limited form. But it somehow isn’t
the same. Even on this occasion, as I finally decide to not sign on to AIM
anymore, I doubt that I will actually delete the program from my computer. I
will leave that primitive golden yellow running man icon on my desktop so that I
can be occasionally reminded of what it was like to come home after school and
chat with friends or stay up late into the night telling bad jokes and quoting
terrible song lyrics to people I hardly knew and not think a thing of it. And I
guess, in the end, that has to be worth something.
You were still signing onto AIM as of last week??? Am I reading that correctly?
ReplyDeleteAlso, wasn't it you who had some kind of record for longest time signed onto AIM??